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One of my friends on Facebook wrote yesterday some words of thought about this with weight and how we look. Her reason to speak came from something that was said on tv here in Sweden, the Let’s Dance show, many of us already know about that competition even if we don’t care about watching it. What made her react was the fact that there was a comment about one of the contenders that had lost some weight due to the dance training. Somewhat jokingly it was said that he had lost half his weight, but it wasn’t more than 5kg. But mostly this was about why it always have to be about weight and looks? Not everything is about being slim and beautiful, there are so many other criteria to look at and it’s not about the outer so called beauty. You can be a wonderful person even if you are severly overweight. But sure, for reasons of health it could be a good idea not having to much overweight, but to make people feel ashamed and feel bad because they can’t live up to an ideal constructed by a few that fits into it, that is cruel and unfair.  It doesn’t matter if you are under- or overweight. Yes, there is actually a problem to be underweight too even if that isn’t talked about as much as the overweight. For me, I probably belong to the latter category even if I had the fortune of having my weight spread out over my whole body. But to hear my daughter, while she is trying on something she felt really attracted to and find out that it wasn’t made for someone with the “wrong” bodyshape, with low voice say “Mum, I wish I was slim…” how much didn’t that hurt? How many goes around with this thorn inside with not fitting in, to not be good enough or be right according to some ideal?

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Oracle of Shadows & Light

So, I pulled as usually these days, two cards from the same oracle deck I’ve really got into, and got two fitting cards yesterday. The first one is Sewer Mermaid and that might not be the one you think beauty about since a sewer doesn’t feel like a nice place. In that card we are reminded that we often have negative thoughts about ourselves – we are to short or tall, thighs too big, our brests are too small, hair is wrong, not beautiful enough, and so on. That creates blocks inside ourselves and finally we start to push other around us away because we think that we are wrong, ugly and not attractive enough. This mermaid says that it’s time to clean up within ourselves among all these negative thoughts and ideas about ourselves. We are beautiful in different ways, and perhaps with a more healthy way of life, as in start moving some more and eat less fast food and sweets as comfort, maybe we will start feeling better in our physical body too. She wants to show that we have beauty despite what creators of clothes and others decide is beauty. This was the last paragraph about what the card was about:

“Let this strong, survivor mermaid show you how to love yourself and your appearance again and rise above the rubbish and stink of negative conditioning regarding your beautiful body and unique self! You are beautiful and very worth loving. This is the only truth that must be told at this time.”

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Oracle of Shadows & Light

But the other card then, what was that? Then came Amara the Menehune and it is, fittingly enough, about healing. She is talking about the importance of calming down, less stress. Eat right and enjoy what you eat, look around you and find the beauty in your surroundings. Relax, enjoy seeing a tree, a flower, a bird, whatever. Slow down and just exist for a moment. Stop listening to those inner and outer voices that says you always have to work, work harder and more, stress, hurry up. Out in the sun and just enjoy life here and now, get some necessary energy. Especially now at springtime it can be about time to shake that darkness off and the effects of short days and little daylight, especially for those of us living further up north and really have short days during winter. You get up in the morning for school and work and it’s dark, and when you’re on your way home it is just as dark before it turns and slowly, day by day, it turns and minutes turns to hours with more daylight.

As previously said, perhaps if we should start appreciating ourselves, see that we have and possess beauty no matter what we look like. I don’t fit in at a beauty competition where all is about what you look, but hopefully I have other things that compensate for it and make me into a person worthy of likes, love and respect for who I am. Same thing with my daughter, she’s no beauty ideal according to those who set those up, but her looks and her personality gives her a beauty that I hope that no one will take away from her or try to make her believe that she isn’t beautiful, lovable and worthy of all the respect and consideration like all the others in this world.

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